Many of us
think of reading somebody else’s mind as a sort of control mechanism. If you
can figure out their next move, you can manipulate t
Reading someone else’s mind allows you to be there for hem or anticipate their
future actions. In reality, it can be
far more practical and personal.
them, understand their point of
view, and relate to them on a deeper level.
Here are 6 easy ways to read someone’s mind easily:
1) Body
Language
Body
language is another clear indication as to what somebody is thinking. If their
forehead is creased they are stressed. How are they sitting or standing; what
is their posture?
When
primates in the wild show strength, they open up, arms out wide. They stretch
out and pound their chests. In fact, their cortisol horome levels decrease,
reducing stress. Like wise, if you bunch up nervously your cortisol levels
increase. When cortisol levels increase, sleep deprivation, weight gain and a
host of other issues can result. Caffeine has many medicinal properties but
when abused, it can lead to cortisol spikes, thus weight gain and sleep
deprivation may follow.
Thus, you
can learn a lot about a person’s mental state from their body language,
posture, and energy levels.
2) Watch
their breath
How are they
breathing? If somebody breathes through the base of their spine it means they
are relaxed. If ones breathe is shallow, they are tense. If you want to know
someone’s mental state, observe their breath.
If their
breathing is choppy, they are most likely nervous which means they don’t want
you to know something. They may be shy,
anxious, or hiding something from you.
If someone has a relaxed breath, you know that their mental state is
calm which typically means they are being truthful.
3) Read
their eyes
The eyes can
also be revealing. The pupil is said to be a portal to the mind. Some studies
have shown that when one thinks hard, pupils dilate. Interestingly, when the brain is overloaded
the pupils will constrict.
Also with
pupils, when you first meet someone they widen. If they widen but then
constrict, it means they are not really interested in you. If the remain
dilated, it means they are excited to be with you.
4) Listen to
their tone of voice. Not the words, their tone.
The tone of
voice can also tell everything. The speed of somebodies voice. Slow is calm,
fast in nervous. The words are not as important as the energy behind them. This
does not even need to be explained because you know what a certain tone means.
But sometimes we must really tune in and listen to get answers.
5) Spend
Time With Them
If you want
to know what makes somebody tick, spend time with them. Spend an afternoon and
you’ll learn a lot. Spend a week, month and year and you might both be reading
each others minds.
When
spending time with someone, it will become obvious how they will react to
certain situations. No matter if the thoughts and feelings are nervous, brave,
happy or sad it is won’t be difficult to notice when you know the person well.
This is why
it amazes me when a parent claims they did not realize anything might be wrong
with their child if the child does something wrong. “Everything was normal”
they might say. This is usually an indication that the parent was not spending
enough time with their child. If they were, no words would need to be spoken
for the parent to know something is wrong.
Other times
we might be in a relationship with somebody for a couple of years and still not
know what they are thinking. This can create stress in a relationship because
it’s hard to know how to act when you don’t know what your lover or friend is
thinking or feeling. But still, generally speaking time is a device that allows
one to tap into the brain of another.
6) Make sure
you aren’t fueling their mind with your energy
Everything
depends on you. If you approach a situation nervously, your friend will reflect
that tension. Approaching a situation in a relaxed state, we can absorb the
other persons energy and recognize it for what it truly is without much
guessing.
It is
important to note that we all have the ability to ask how somebody feels.
Beyond the polite “how’s it going” throwaway question (which is always answered
with “good” type response) it is ok to dig a little deeper. Maybe you can try
to read their mind and ask a more specific question such as, “you seem relaxed
and in a good mood…?”
Open ended
observations like that can open up real dialog as opposed to simple customary
banter. As a little exercise, if somebody
does ask “how’s it going” feel free to offer up something real. Stop and
examine your own feelings for a couple seconds, then tell them. Self awareness
is critical when attempting to be more aware of others around you. The less aware and centered you are, the less
you will be able to read another person’s mind.
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