We
all know that woman. She is strong and independent, turning heads the second
that she walks into the room. Dominating anything that she sets her mind on,
she is the definition of success. Refusing to be backed into a corner or forced
to conform, you may find her in any walk of life – Ruling the boardroom,
teaching the next generation at your local high school, or at home raising her
children and maintaining complete order.
Known
as an ‘Alpha women’ in many circles, she is the one that everyone else looks up
to. From the outside looking in, she’s got it all figured out. There is nothing
that she touches that she doesn’t turn to gold, and she does it all with a
smile on her face. Handling whatever life throws her way with grace and
confidence, she makes it look easy.
In
many cases, she may have had to face a life more difficult than most. Life
dealt her lemons, testing her strength and resolve and just daring her to give
up. Instead, she stood tall, fire in her eyes, and refused to back down. An
inspiration to many who know her, she gives the impression that there is
nothing that she can’t handle.
When
she is alone, however, there is another side of her that she will never allow
others to see. Underneath the strong, bold exterior she hides away a vulnerable side, burying away her pain, struggles, and difficulties. It’s not that she
doesn’t feel them, that couldn’t be more wrong. She experiences heartbreak,
failure, betrayal, and disappointment every day, possibly even more so than
those around her, but she tucks these feelings away replacing them with a
renewed determination to care for everything and everyone around her.
When
life comes crashing down and you don’t know what to do, she’s the one you call.
She will always be there, without hesitation, reaching out a hand to help you
get back on your feet and a shoulder to cry on. She speaks with wisdom and
understanding, explaining why it is ok to not be okay for a short period of
time so long as you get back up afterward and keep moving forward. Listening to
you share all of life’s struggles, nothing scares her off. She will never
complain about your need for support, instead, she encourages you to reach out,
reminding you that is what loved ones are for. Yet despite all of this, she
doesn’t share her own struggles and difficulties. She doesn’t tell you that she
will go home that night and cry alone in her room. Her struggles aren’t her
concern, she simply wants to make life better for those that she loves.
She
refuses to allow life to keep her down, facing the criticism that inevitablyfollows a woman of strength and independence. She’s been called a bitch, had
her authority questioned, and been told to change her ways to better fit
society’s expectation of women. Shrugging it all off, she holds her head high
and continues to march forward, motivating other women to follow in her path.
She doesn’t whine or complain, after all, she’s got this – Right?
What
you don’t see, what she won’t let you see, is that she secretly questions and
doubts herself nearly every step of the way. She second guesses her abilities,
and even entertains the idea that she may not actually be good enough. She is
haunted each and every day by this inner voice, tearing her down and reminding
her of her insecurities. However, she knows that there are more eyes on her
than she can count, and she refuses to let anyone down. Painting on a confident
smile, she buries away her fears and anxieties to be released only when she is
in the safety of her own home.
Even
her partner, if she has one, hasn’t seen the depth of her struggles. Her
concern for their wellbeing and happiness takes top priority. As she does with
her friends and family members, she will go out of her way to be there for them
through thick and thin, showing love, support and compassion. Refusing to
burden them with what she sees as ‘her problems,’ she continues to manage her
own pain behind the scenes. It’s not that she doesn’t trust anyone else, she
loves to a fault and fears that her pain will bring others down. Wanting
nothing but the best for her loved ones, there is nothing that would upset her
more than knowing that she is the reason that they feel pain.
There
are days where she will wonder if she can keep going. She will question her
faith, as she feels the overwhelming burden of her pain. She will long to call
out for help, to cry out to the people around her, yet her mind won’t let her
utter the words. Instead, she tucks it all safely out of sight once more, and
stands up, brushing herself off, ready to face another day.
Source : awarenessact.com