When
an Empath comes across fake people it is common for them to shut down as a form
of protection. This can be seen as
stumbling over words or one’s memory and thought process being affected. Anyone
who is not emanating truthful vibes will put an Empath on high alert.
In my days as a
hairdresser, I could never understand why when I was with certain clients, who
came across lovely, I would get awful feelings inside. It was only when I
discovered I was an Empath that it all made sense to me. I was feeling their
pain that they were hiding in fake behavior.
There
are many levels of falseness and many reasons for it. In the early days of
discovering of one’s Empathic abilities it may not always be easy to pinpoint
just why someone feels so bad to you.
Here are some traits and behaviors that may leave you
feeling awful:
1.
Someone who wants to loved by everyone they meet acts overly
nice to get adoration.
2.
Someone being filled with hate or anger yet working hard to
convince the world otherwise.
3.
Someone having had an emotionally destructive childhood
leaving them insecure and in pain, yet playing the tough guy.
4. Someone building a
totally new personality to hide the person they believe will not be accepted by
society.
5.
Someone being full of insincere praise for you.
6.
Someone making up stories to make themselves sound
interesting
And this is how you may find yourself reacting:
1.
Avoiding being in their presence, yet not really having a reason
to do so (as in they did not say or do anything to hurt you).
2.
Not being able to talk to them. Sentences literally won’t
form in your mouth and your brain acts like you have no memory. You find
yourself just asking questions and if you do talk it feels like it makes no
sense.
3.
Having a sense of dread in the pit of stomach that won’t go
until you are no longer in said person’s presence.
4. Any more than an hour
spent in their company will drain you and leave you feeling ill.
5.
Feeling guilty because you may like person but dislike how
it feels to be with them.
6.
Feeling helpless around them.
Now
just because an Empath feels fakeness and untruths in another does not mean
they do not fake themselves. For some, when they feel bad around a faker it may
mean they are picking up a trait they do not like about themselves and they too
hide it from the world.
We
all have to put a face on and act fake at some point in our lives, but for some
it’s everyday. We may have to be upbeat and happy when we feel sad or depressed,
we may have to act annoyed when we are actually indifferent or we may have to
pretend to love a job we actually detest. In some cases faking it can get us
through difficult situations, but living it daily is not healthy.
It
is important for the Empath to uncover any hidden traits and emotions, because
whilst we bury a side of us we do not like we will never be happy or feel
complete. However, the problem we have is that many of us do not know the root
cause.
One
of the biggest causes of unhappiness on this planet is people not knowing
themselves and when we hide a side of us from others without knowing the
reason, it will cause us pain. Being true and authentic is emotionally freeing.
Quite often, many of the traits we buried have in fact been inherited and
passed down the family line or they may even be from a past life. Wherever they
stemmed from it is important for us to uncover these traits, and if they can’t
be changed (some traits are hardwired), accept and learn to live with them.
Sensitive
people will bury negative traits because we know how destructive they are but
burying them does not lose them. They will always show up and cause damage.
Hate,
anger, jealousy and fear of rejection are four traits most often buried. We may
hate someone for the way they have behaved towards us. Anger may have been
inherited from an angry parent. Praise and attention being bestowed on a
childhood friend or sibling may have led to a jealous streak and being rejected
as a child, by an unknowing parent for instance, may have built up inside as an
intense fear of rejection. All very simple and innocent triggers, but all of
which can snowball and lead us to have deep set insecurities that we feel have
to remain hidden. When we recognize and accept a trait in self, it loses its
hold.